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The man they wanted me to be : toxic masculinity and a crisis of our own making / Jared Yates Sexton.

Sexton, Jared, (author.).

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Erlanger Branch 305.31 S518m 2019 (Text) 33126022533271 Adult Nonfiction Available -

Record details

  • ISBN: 9781640091818
  • ISBN: 1640091815
  • Physical Description: 254 pages ; 24 cm
  • Edition: First hardcover edition.
  • Publisher: Berkeley, California : Counterpoint, 2019.

Content descriptions

Bibliography, etc. Note:
Includes bibliographical references.
Formatted Contents Note:
A hard, small cage -- My father's son -- A crisis of our own making.
Summary, etc.:
"Based on his provocative and popular New York Times op-ed, The Man They Wanted Me to Be is both memoir and cultural analysis. Jared Yates Sexton alternates between an examination of his working class upbringing and historical, psychological, and sociological sources that examine the genesis of toxic masculinity and its consequences for society. As progressivism changes American society, and globalism shifts labor away from traditional manufacturing, the roles that have been prescribed to men since the Industrial Revolution have been rendered as obsolete. Donald Trump's campaign successfully leveraged male resentment and entitlement, and now, with Trump as president and the rise of the #MeToo movement, it's clearer than ever what a problem performative masculinity is. Deeply personal and thoroughly researched, The Man They Wanted Me to Be examines how we teach boys what's expected of men in America, and the long term effects of that socialization--which include depression, suicide, misogyny, and, ultimately, shorter lives. Sexton turns his keen eye to the establishment of the racist patriarchal structure which has favored white men, and investigates the personal and societal dangers of such outdated definitions of manhood"-- Provided by publisher.
Subject: Sexton, Jared.
Authors, American > 21st century > Biography.
Journalists > United States > Biography.
Men > Socialization > United States.
Masculinity > United States.

  • Library Journal Reviews : LJ Reviews 2019 April

    Sexton (The People Are Going To Rise Like the Waters on Your Shore) wrote about toxic masculinity in the New York Times, and his impoverished, rural upbringing in Salon. This book weaves these threads, describing Sexton's relationships with his parents and the damage toxic masculinity causes to families and society. Acknowledging his privilege and the complexities of the problem, while calling for the dismantling of hegemonic patriarchy, Sexton argues that men must acknowledge their vulnerabilities, which they deny to the point of shortening their lives. Leading by example, the author lays out, like a raw nerve, the vulnerabilities of his relationship with his father and both their attempts to find meaning in a world steeped in toxicity. Their poignant final meeting elicits both sorrow for what is lost and hope for the growth of those caught in society's unrealistic expectations of masculinity. Beautifully written storytelling, research pathways, and nuanced viewpoints create a roadmap to a better way of being, a new hero's journey, and a promising glimpse at the future. VERDICT A powerfully written call to join an impending cultural revolution, one in which we raise one another up in healthy and worthwhile ways. Highly recommended.—Melissa Engleman, Univ. of Tennessee at Martin

    Copyright 2019 Library Journal.

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